Missives from the Fringe

By Nicole Cooper

Nope, didn’t see that one on my bingo card of life. And yet, here I am—a former self-proclaimed golf hater turned go-to guru for golf-related queries among friends and family. Yep, I’m the one you’ll find routinely DMed newbie questions, often tagged in viral golf memes, the gal expected to be out on the course under the warm sun, rocking that infamous golfer’s sock tan all sandal-season long.

But y’all, I used to talk SO much smack. That’s probably why the biggest question I get is: “Nik, how in the wide world of sports did you end up actually starting to golf?”

While my answer involves several long, dogleg turns, I think the better question to ask is why I kept at it. And simply put, when I didn’t see many folks who looked like me on the greens, I realized that’s exactly why I needed to stay. To be clear, it’s not the only reason I stayed, and for a million reasons, I’m glad that I did; I’ve learned so much and joyfully have so much to share! To that end, here are some missives from the fringe via yours truly, your favorite gal on the green.

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Hey Nik,

I’ve always been curious about golf, but as a complete newbie approaching middle-age, it feels a bit daunting. How do I start my golf journey without feeling overwhelmed?

Signed,

Mulliganing Midlife

Dear Mulliganing,

Stepping onto the green can feel like walking onto a stage with all spotlights
on you—thrilling but also terrifying! Here’s how to ease into golf:

• First, grab a golf buddy who can show you the ropes during off-peak hours; there’s less crowd and pressure.
• Consider starting on a par 3 or a 
pitch & putt course. These are like cozy neighborhood cafés where everything is friendlier and more manageable. On a proper course, practice dropping it from 50 yards out—it’s like meeting the course halfway.
• Why not try a golf simulator or Topgolf? It’s casual, cool, and a ton 
of fun with electronic cheers and zero judgment.
• Feeling adventurous? Dive into a captain’s choice or charity tournament. These events focus on fun and good causes, so the pressure’s low.

Remember: Golf is an adventure. Every hole, every shot is part of your story. So, take a deep breath, swing and enjoy the ride!

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Hey Nik,

I’m a woman trying to break into golf, but it seems so dominated by men. Any tips on how I can feel more included and less intimidated?

Signed,

Brinking Bad

Dear Brinking,

Golf can indeed feel like an old boys’ club, but here’s how to swing your way in with confidence:

• Look for women’s golf clinics. They’re great for learning in a supportive environment.
• Join a Women’s Golf Association (WGA) if you’re a club member. It’s a game-changer for community and support.
• Get inspired by following the 
LPGA and LET Golf tours, and don’t underestimate the power of your own social media to connect and share your journey.

Remember: Every golfer started somewhere. Lace up those golf shoes, grab your clubs, and show the green it looks better with more women on it!

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Hey Nik,

My wife thinks golf is just a boring old man’s game. How can I encourage her to try it without pushing too hard?

Signed,

Eager to Tee Up Together

Dear Eager,

Introducing your wife to golf in a fun, supportive way can change her view:

• • Start as a spectator. Let her ride along to soak in the social and leisure aspects without pressure. And heck, don’t forget to show her BoBirdie!
  • Play a few holes together in a captain’s choice style for a less stressful, collaborative experience.
  • Offer to engage in one of her favorite activities in return, showing willingness 
to step out of your comfort zones together.
  • Make it a date by combining golf with another activity she enjoys, and maybe 
cap it off with a golf movie like Tin Cup or The Legend of Bagger Vance.

• Highlight how golf is a great way to enjoy the outdoors and stay active together.

Remember: Golf isn’t just a sport; it’s a shared adventure. So, tee up and enjoy the journey!

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If you step onto the course and don’t see anyone who looks like you, remember: that might be exactly where you need to be. Take up space, learn the etiquette, allow for laughs, bend the rules as needed and above all, stay true to YOU. By bringing your unique self to the fairways, you’re not only challenging the status quo but also paving the way for others who will follow in your footsteps thereby enriching the sport as a whole. Now grab some clubs, and let’s make some (*ahem* appropriately-timed) noise! The course is yours to change, one swing at a time. 

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